I like to consider myself a high-functioning introvert. I do a day job and volunteer some of my evenings, much of which involves talking to people in the real world. Many of these conversations I enjoy, especially when I get to hear how people build systems and processes, and what advise and documentation I can give or build.
The corollary of “if it’s not documented, it doesn’t exist” means I get to bring things into existence! But I digress.
Despite this, there’s a finite amount of social capital I can spend on such things a day before, as Clara puts it, I retreat into my shell.
We all have this to an extent, even those who identify as extroverts. The most outgoing person might feign being exited about joining two dozen calls a day, but there’s a reason why corporate retreats and onsens exist.
Realising one has limited personal social capital does help to frame priorities. There’s a real opportunity cost to every nonsense conversation or person, especially those who don’t act in good faith. I want to spend this time on people I care about.